Remember when your Mum used to get you to try new foods?
And you’d say,
“But I don’t like it” and she’d say “How do you know…you haven’t tried it?”
Well, last week I was at my sisters house and she is a foster parent who has a lovely little boy in her care at the moment. When he came to her he only ate bland beige food and over the few months he’s been with her he has really started to enjoy more foods.
I had popped into her new house to have a nose around and she said she’d knock me up a bit of brunch as I’d had an early meeting and no breakfast, she started making pancakes with fruit yogurt and honey.
“I looooooooovvvveeee honey” this little 4 year old boy says
“Me too” I said
“It’s soooo nice” he said
“I know” I said
To which my sister mouthed
“He’s never tried honey”
Well, he did that morning and he loved it.
I think we should all be a bit more like this excitable little boy.
Now on to some real business lessons hey?
A few months ago while at a speaking gig in Frankfurt I was invited to get involved with a new thing.
A new thing I’d never heard of before.
I didn’t know what it would be like, how much it would cost to go, what the return on investment would be, or even if it would suit someone like me. I might have hated it…it might have been full of weirdos.
The thing was the Association of Transformational Leaders, Europe…headed up by Marie Diamond a global Fung Shui expert (who I’m a bit embarrassed to say I didn’t know who she was until this weekend…anyone who has been to my apartment will know this to be true ha ha)
For those who don’t know who she is, Marie is an international bestselling author, speaker, and consultant not only in Feng Shui – but also Quantum Physics, the Law of Attraction, and other branches of ancient wisdom.
I looked into it…it looked interesting, there were other interesting people going, it would involve some travel (I looooovvvee travel) but I still had some reservations.
I’d just got back from a week in Mexico with one of the worlds leading transformational coaches. I’d just come back from a weekend in Frankfurt keynoting at a high profile conference…this niggling thought of…
“Who are you to enjoy a life of travel and adventure?”
Almost…you can have some, but not too much…cos that would just be greedy.
But there was also a bit of,
“People will start to think you are one of those personal development junkies…who doesn’t actually have a real business to speak of”
“I’ll look into it next time,” I said to the guy who kindly invited me.
But I kept looking at that slot in my diary. I kept wondering what if. It’s like I knew I would miss out if I didn’t go.
I spoke about this with my business coach, using cost as the reason not to go…and she said,
“If you had the money would you go?” to which I said
“Without a shadow of a doubt” so she said,
“Go make the money then”
And so I did.
I launched a new thing which I wasn’t sure if I would do this year and I made more than enough to cover the flights, accommodation and event fee…so now I had no excuse not to go.
“I’ve changed my mind, I want to come” I messaged my guy…and this was with a week to go!!!! And that’s OK…we are OK to change our minds…no shame there.
It wasn’t about the money really, I already had money in the bank, but this was an investment I hadn’t accounted for and like I had to test the universe to see if she was going to play ball.
Also turned out the event fell on half term and so my daughter was able to go to her Dads for an extra couple of days.
And so I headed off to Krakow in Poland to spend a weekend with a bunch of people from across Europe that I’d never met before…apart from one dude who I had a 45-minute conversation with at a Gala Dinner under the influence of wine.
Sometimes your intuition just tells you to do stuff.
You can’t explain why?
It doesn’t make sense to other people even, you just have a knowing in your bones that this was meant for you.
And so as I sit here at my desk the day after returning, trying to collect my thoughts and share the lessons from that initial resistance, it’s almost impossible to imagine a parallel universe where I didn’t go on the trip….(I know I’m going a bit sliding doors on you)
I had the most incredible weekend.
The content of the actual 3-day event, and the relationships aside…just the things which I experienced in Krakow, the adventures I had getting around on foot. From doing a photo tour with a local photographer to tasting local cuisine to exploring the architecture…these will live with me forever.
But it was the people.
It was the energy of that specific group of people, it was the journey we went on as a group (all you woo woo/personal development haters can turn away now haha)
I was meant to have found this collective of people, and they were meant to have found me. The conversations we had and will continue to have, the collaborations we will go on to create, the shared vision we now have for change in the world…they were all meant to happen.
Business isn’t just about having the right strategy, or the right vision, it’s not about the tools you use day to day or the range of products or services you offer…ultimately it’s about the impact you make the change you enable, and by holding yourself back from growing as a business owner and as a person, well you halt the scale of impact you can make…the scale of the change.
As we approach the end of this decade for sure you will be doing a whole heap of planning and strategising for 2020…but what’s the good in saying I want more money, more adventure, more support, more travel, more opportunities to grow my network, more clients, more ideas….if when these present themselves to you, you still say no.
You miss the opportunity because you didn’t see it coming.
And why do we say no?
Often its because we are afraid.
“Nope…I’m just being strategic with my resources” I hear you saying.
Well…that has been my excuse in the past too.
But here is the thing.
It’s fine to have a strategy and stick to it, and have boundaries around saying no to things which are not on that plan. And even to maintain your budget.
But when your vision for creating massive change in your life and in your business is so powerful and so clear I believe you can afford to let go of the specifics of how you are going to get there…because trust me what is meant for you will find it’s way to you…that’s just the way these things work.
And you can always make more money in business, but time isn’t so easy to make back.
- What are you saying no to out of fear?
- What are the signs you are constantly ignoring?
- Where are you wasting that other important resources, time?
- Where do you need to be braver in your decision making?
So I am saying a big fat yes to
- More adventure and travel
- Fabulous collaborations
- Building a team to support my visions
- Creating more wealth
- Skyrocketing the impact I can have on this planet
If you are an entrepreneur who has a plan to create massive impact (and income) with your talents and ideas and want to join me on my mission to impact on a million lives…get in touch.
I have a range of things (programmes, events, offerings) coming up over the next 3 months…some of which I won’t be promoting publically…as they will be invite-only. I have full confidence that the right people will find their way to me and my work…but if you want to keep abreast of these developments then sign up to my spanking new monthly bulletin which is coming out in November…sign up here (there will be great free stuff to be had #justsaying)
So watch this space….
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A massive thank you to my new ACL family, I seriously felt like one of the gang by the time we hit the first coffee break…and that is the sign of a powerful and humble tribe…no ego, no hierarchy, just warmth and support and love.