Life can be hard sometimes.
Despite being better connected than we ever have been, there are still times when you simply feel completely alone.
I know I do.
Being a single parent, and a solopreneur gives me a double whammy of aloneness, especially when things don’t go to plan.
You can’t do everything by yourself though.
Especially not the tough stuff.
You have to ask for help, you have to build a support network to be there for when the shit does hit the fan.
Because it will.
I have been incredibly lucky to have made some amazing friends over the last few years who provide me with emotional and practical support, often from afar.
Yesterday I had a particularly challenging day, and the moment I reached out for support it was there.
I think when you run a business that involves supporting others, it’s even more important to have someone there to support you.
The best coaches, have coaches so the saying goes.
And I do.
I was incredibly lonely in my business until I started to invest properly in business coaches.
The benefits have been far-reaching, both in terms of profit but also improving other areas of life…including my health and wellbeing.
Sometimes we know what we need to do in life and in business, but the fear is so overwhelming that we just get paralyzed by it.
We don’t always need someone shouting “Just F’ing do it” down the phone, what we need most of the time is someone to simply hold our hand.
Did you know holding hands is actually good for us?
No, seriously.
It has been proven to lower our stress levels, increase the love hormone oxytocin…and generally just reduce the fear and overwhelm so many of us encounter.
Who do you have in your life to hold your hand?
Are they able to hold it when you need them to?
Without judgement, without conditions?
Are they there through the good times and the bad times?
Can you count on them when it counts?
Today I signed up for another year of support from my business coach Gemma Went (check her out she’s bloody brilliant).
I signed up another brilliant 121 client yesterday who will be working with me for 6 months to help grow her own coaching business, and make things a bit easier in her life.
This evening at midnight the early bird price for the next round of my 12 week mastermind Living a Bigger Life Mastermind will finish, and next week the doors will close until 2019.
These things are very much interconnected, they feed into one another.
Its hard to find people to invest in you unless you are willing and able to invest properly in yourself.
And by investment, I mean allowing yourself to spend
- Time
- Money
- Effort
On making things better for you.
Sometimes that feels a bit selfish, but a way of remembering just how important investing in yourself is asking yourself the question,
Who wins when I win?
Because, as women it is never wholly about us is it?
Our goals are often about providing more for our loved ones, and making the world a slightly better place to live in where we can too.
Support from like-minded women is always a huge part of my online coaching programmes, it always has been. So many of us feel alone in our struggles both in life and in business…and just having a safe space to share “our stuff” works wonders for being able to make sense of our lives.
A significant part of my life coaching work is around helping women to identify first what they want, and then to put a plan together to go on and achieve those things. I can’t really take credit for the incredible achievements they make, but I am there holding their hand the whole way through, even if for most of them I am hundreds of miles away.
Will you let me hold your hand over the next few months?
If you are interested in working with a life coach who is fantastic at both hand holding and butt-kicking this side of Christmas (sorry I said the C word) then you need to act fast. I have just 2 spots left to work 121 with women, and just 7 spaces left on the Living a Bigger Life group programme. Feel free to drop me a line julie@juliecreffield.com if you have any questions.