Change is hard.
It is scary.
It can make you feel vulnerable.
It can often feel like the journey ahead of you to make the change you really want to make is so difficult, so complex and so overwhelming that it is easier just to stay exactly where you are.
Change can also take time.
Or does it have to?
How long does it take to change a lightbulb…and no this is not a joke.
Well, it depends on if you have a new one to change it to, if you have a stall to climb on to reach, and if you know how to do it.
But for most people, the act of changing a lightbulb takes less than 60 seconds.
How many of us though have left a broken lightbulb for weeks, maybe even months because we haven’t prioritised it enough, it has become one of those things that never quite gets done on your list…and you know it grinds on you every time you find yourself in darkness, or switching the switch before remembering…and then the moment you get the job done and you have light again…ah the joy the relief…and then moments after you forget about it altogether.
Because the change is complete…you can now move on to the next thing which needs fixing.
Now I don’t work with women who need fixing, but I do work with women who want to change. Perhaps for some it starts with wanting to change their habits, become a little bit healthier perhaps, or maybe they want to change their careers, or their relationships, or maybe even how they view themselves.
I have wonderful strategies, tips and tools to help them with this…but they have to want to change in the first place and be willing to do the work.
These changes don’t have to take a lifetime though, a lot of the changes we want to take literally only take the time it takes to make the decision to change,
I want to stop drinking diet coke
I want to stop leaving my bed unmade each morning
I want to start getting a manicure once a week
I want to stop saying yes when I really mean NO
Then do it.
Too often we long for the change, the results the change will give us, but we are reluctant to actually make the change, we have resistance to it, because our natural reaction to change is fear…fear of the unknown…it is a human instinct, which is why I believe change is something we need practice in.
And sometimes we wait for permission to change.
When I was younger I desperately wanted to be a writer and I used to write (See the irony here) to my Uncle Les (My Nans Brother who was a writer) and tell him of my desire to become a writer, begging him for advice or connections he might have to make it more of a reality. His response was always the same,
“Julie…if you want to become a writer, you have to write”
And that is what I eventually did. It took me a while to make the change and actually just get on with the job of writing. 8 books and hundreds of blog posts later I now teach other people how to get their ideas into book format (my next course is coming up on the 25th May in case you were interested)
But the point is…sometimes the things we want are literally already there, and if not they are just a few actions away.
We get so overwhelmed with the options, the hoops we think we need to jump through and so we do nothing…then we get frustrated that everything is still the same, or maybe even getting worse.
Decide today to change.
Just one thing.
It doesn’t need to be a big thing…or maybe it is.
Change can happen fast or take a little longer…it doesn’t need to take forever though.
I help women…
- Think differently in one of my 1 hour talks
- Learn to run in 5 weeks (I have one of those courses starting soon)
- Train for a marathon in 8 months
- Write a book in 26.2 hours
- Completely overhaul their lives in 90 days
What could you do by committing to working with me over the next few months?
Drop me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like to discuss either of these, happy to arrange a FREE 30 minute telephone call to see if I can help in just half an hour.
Make that change.