I once read that most new years resolutions are pretty much forgotten by Valentine’s day, but here we are just 17 days into a brand spanking new year and what do I find out?
Today is Ditch the New Years Resolution Day.
Is that all the resolve that people have?
Look, I talk about this problem every year…the fact that January 1st is pretty much the worst day of the year to turn over a new leaf.
- Money is tight
- You are coming down from a sugar and alcohol binge
- Family tension is at an all-time high
- The weather is shitty (well at least it is in the UK)
- And everywhere you look there are experts telling you how to make 2018 the best year EVER!!!
Shit…do I fall into that category too?
I NEVER set new years resolutions because I don’t see any logic in waiting until just one time of the year to review my goals and make new intentions. I also believe that the pressure of setting goals in this way leads to a resentment and unnecessary pressure, which to be frank we can do without.
My system for planning is based on a concept called Big Fat Stupid Goals which are mahoosive in scale, juicy and indulgent by nature and seemingly foolish because nobody believes you can achieve them, maybe even you.
But the things about BFSGs is they are so so super exciting and rewarding to achieve that it gives you the strongest sense of WHY ever, plus the possibility of failure is so damn scary that they help you change your habits and behaviors almost by default.
I think my first proper Big Fat Stupid Goal was back in 2006 when I decided I wanted to go to university…it was never something I had really wanted before, but a college lecturer put the idea in my head and all I could think about was
YES…I get to move away from home
At the time I was living at home with 5 other siblings, life was pretty uneventful, I never had much money, didn’t have a boyfriend…didn’t have much to look forward to. But going to university would be a whole new adventure…and I’d be the first to go from my whole entire university which would give me extra family kudos. I had to make it happen.
See the thing about BFSGs is they are never about one thing…not like losing weight or giving up booze, BFSGs change EVERYTHING…like seriously on an energetic level they force you to change, you have to change the way you approach fear, you have to change the way you schedule your time, you have to change the way you engage with other people….but the best thing is you don’t have to change who you are to do it, well not in a negative way.
Running my first marathon in 2012 is another example of a Big Fat Stupid Goal I set on a whim. I decided back in 2005 if London was to be awarded the Olympic games, I would run the London Marathon in 2012…it did, so I did…despite the fact I could barely run to the top of my road at the start. But the thought of running down the mall at the end of my 26.2 mile run, in an Olympic year when the eyes of the world were looking towards my wonderful home city…there was no way on earth I wasn’t going to achieve that goal.
So let’s forget about those New Years Resolutions…of course keep up the new habits if you can and really want to, but make sure you get clear on what your Big Fat Stupid Goals are, and set about making them happen now.
My top tips for seeing them through?
- Visualise yourself completing your BFSG
- Share your BFSG far and wide
- Set massive milestones moments to keep you motivated
- Invest in yourself by spending the time, money and energy needed to move to the next step
- Find people to keep you accountable
For more about setting Big Fat Stupid Goals and my aversion to New Years Resolutions check out my book “New Year Same You” which spent months in the health charts just under Joe Wicks (with his all-time best-selling health and fitness book Lean in 15), I guess there are worse places to be than under Joe Wicks.
If you would like to work with me for the next 10 weeks formalising your BFSG and working through the things in your life that may be stopping you from achieving such things in your life check out my Living a Bigger Life Mastermind. The early bird price for the February cohort finishes in just 2 days, and places are limited and likely to be sold out in the next 24 hours.